Do I feel guilty after sex?
MONDAY, March 15 – It’s only just after midnight, but let the record show my widower’s virginity has been out asunder. Yep, and it was great. Our emails had crossed, we talked on the phone, and late that evening I dropped by. Eamonn was already asleep and Sander, who was in the shower, had no objections when I said (ahem) that I was going out for a beer.
I was on my way home when she called. ‘If you have any regrets, I’ll understand.’ That was the last thing that occurred to me! No fucking way. It was intimate, tender and satisfying, but also difficult. Physically complicated. To make love is one thing, to come is something else.
‘Do you feel guilty?’ she asked.
Diary of a Widower 
I have a confession I will make here. I am in a relationship now. Very nice, friendship, companionship and yes sex. I really like him. But the last time we were together, we were drifting off to sleep in each others arms. It was wonderful. It was dark and when I closed my eyes I said to myself: “for just a few mins. I will pretend it is my late husband, just a few”, and I did. I really like this man, and I am happy that I am having a good time but I am not all sure I can fall in love again.
I’m happy for you that you can have a good time. About the falling in love, well, it can’t hurt trying. Thanks, that’s quite an intimate moment you were willing to share with us.